The Myth of Solo Self-Care

This might come as a shock to the hyper-independent, super successful people out there, but you weren’t meant to regulate alone. While solo practices matter, the nervous system heals faster in the presence of attuned others. This is co-regulation.

What Is Co-Regulation?

It’s the process of calming your nervous system through safe, connected presence—eye contact, shared breath, soft voice, safe touch.

Who You Co-Regulate With Matters

Some people activate, not soothe. (You all know the type. 😬 😉) Seek out those whose presence makes your shoulders drop and breath slow. The people who feel like a warm hug for the soul, just when you need it most.

Simple Holiday Co-Regulation Practices

• Shared grounding rituals: light a candle together, do breathwork before hosting
• Nonverbal support: hold hands, sync breath, soft eyes
• Somatic celebration: movement, laughter, hugs, safe silence

Oxytocin: The Unsung Hero

This bonding hormone is released through a safe connection. It’s what makes you feel truly at ease, and, the best part, it’s free. And in a world where dopamine is abundant, oxytocin does wonders for healing the female nervous system, especially.

Slow down. Connect. Your nervous system will thank you. 🤍